Insecurity is a Waste of Time

At one point or another, we’ve all sat in restaurants and pulled out our phones as soon our significant other or friend(s) goes to the restroom, am I right?

Some of us have eaten alone before, but most of us have likely have done it with a phone, book, laptop or magazine in tow.

We’ve also stood there at a party working up the courage to go talk to the prettiest girl in the room or the most outgoing guy who’s making everyone laugh. However, we decide not to approach her/him. Why?

Insecurity.

Unsure if we’ll measure up to society’s standards and expectations, we do all these things so we don’t have to deal with rejection, feel better about ourselves, fit in more and to stay within arm’s length of our comfort zones. Even the biggest celebrities have issues with insecurity. The pressure is always on because they are constantly being watched on what they say/do, what they create (ie. clothes, music, movies, etc.), the clothes they wear and where they go.

The one person who I think is confident in themselves and can pull it all off?

Kate Middleton.

She handled her wedding, pressure from the public to have a child right away and the birth of her son and daughter so beautifully. Her refusing to accept free clothes from designer houses shows her utmost integrity. She conducts herself in such a lady-like and classy manner wherever she goes, wears her clothes again and again (which is great because it’s her way to tell the public that she’s a normal person – something I believe ALL celebrities should do), has fun at whatever event she’s attending and does it all with the WORLD watching her.

The best part is that Prince William warned her by asking her if she knew what she was getting into before their relationship got any deeper. Clearly, she did because she is rocking at being a wife, mom, sister, daughter, in-law, Duchess, fashion icon and world celebrity.

How does she do it? Defeating her insecurity. It could be that it has something to do with the world constantly watching her with a telescope, but have you thought that it’s probably because she wants to be a role model? Personally, I’m pretty sure that it also has to do with the fact that she’s confident in herself.

Diane Von Furstenberg, a big designer name in the fashion industry and creator of the wrap dress is right.

Insecurity is a waste of time. -Diane Von Furstenberg Click To Tweet

The time you spend beating yourself up could be used to do something great.

Instead of dissing yourself, how about doing something you love or have always wanted to do? Channel your artistic side. Open up that Etsy/online shop you’ve always wanted to do. How about taking that dance class for the first time to defeat your fears? What about working towards your dreams? Start a business to get rid of debt, gain time freedom and go on more vacations? What about things as simple as putting a smile on someone’s face, volunteering, encouraging others and getting out there to enjoy what’s meant to be enjoyed: life?

Loves, I urge you to never base your value on someone one’s opinion. It creates insecurity.

Comparing yourself to others also creates insecurity. Please take to heart what Jon Acuff said, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.”

Your main goal in life is to be happy and love others. It’s what God has always wanted for you so do it! Why would you want to listen to people’s opinions? It’s just that, an opinion. Not a fact. Opinion. Besides, why would you listen to the very people who aren’t trying to the win the game? You know, those who hang around on the sidelines? Yeah, them. Here’s a truthbomb, life is more fun and exciting being on the field than being on the sidelines! 

At the end of the day, no one else lives your life, but you. Click To Tweet

If you didn’t know this already, you will now. Those who choose to say negative things to get you down do it so they can feel better about themselves. (There’s also a high chance they aren’t striving for the best for themselves either.) Ask any successful person. Successful people have the most enemies. It’s true and these enemies are known as the putter-downers. (Other possible names could be Negative Nancys, Debbie Downers, or Bluebirds of Happiness.)

Pretty sure I jumped up and did a fist pump in the air when I read this,

“Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.” – Brené Brown

#BAM

Look, we all have abilities, but when you shrug off a compliment that someone gives you, devalue/dis your talents, or put yourself down in any way, that’s when you have disabilities.

In the comments below, write down three things you’re good at/like about yourself. It may be hard, but I want you to give it a try!