I tell people everywhere I go that my success began the day I started focusing on developing who I am as a person. —Eric Thomas

Before I begin, I want to digress and say that when I was growing up, I was shy…excruciatingly painful shy.

Here’s how bad it was: if you had given me a choice, I would’ve chosen to do anything (math included) over talking to people.

Sound familiar?

If you’re shy and are looking to work on building some self-confidence, but do not know where to begin, keep reading!Building Self-Confidence | She Sweats DiamondsI started getting over my shyness a little bit at a time through experiencing high school and early college years. And I must say, this timeframe was probably one of the most difficult yet fulfilling times of my life.Building Self-Confidence | She Sweats DiamondsThen my confidence and view of self-worth took a nose dive towards the end of my college years through other experiences and since then, I’ve been working hard to gain it back.Building Self-Confidence | She Sweats DiamondsThat leads me to today’s topic about self-confidence. Everyone struggles with self-confidence. Some people hide it better than others. Building Self-Confidence | She Sweats DiamondsI feel that some people search for ways to build their confidence up, but they’re really not sure how to do it or where to start. So today, I wanted to share five of my personal tips about building self-confidence.Building Self-Confidence | She Sweats Diamonds



After seeing me interact with people at an event several years ago, one of my besties asked me how I knew so many people. I told her my secret: if I knew I’d be meeting these people someday, I start building a relationship ahead of time. I love building relationships with people online for a long time before meeting them in person. It makes the initial meet-up way less awkward for me. Call me selfish, but it works!

I have been able to walk up to someone I’ve never met in real life before with the utmost confidence because of the interaction I’ve had with them online beforehand.


I know this sounds kind of weird, but I did this subconsciously…with a Panda iPhone cover, hah! People stopped to tell me how cute my cover was while I was on the phone or when I was holding it. Wearing or carrying something unique is always a good conversation starter.


If you’ve ever spoken to a celebrity or an important person, they tend to ask you questions. Here’s why: real leaders make it about you, not them. When conversing with a leader in any industry, take notice of how they’ll ask questions about you and your interests.

Next, notice that when they speak to you, it’s as if you’re the only person in the room with them. That’s how leaders remember your name and what you’ve said. That, my friends, is real leadership.

I’ve done this quite a few times myself because it takes the spotlight/pressure off of me and puts it on the other person. Then when the other person asks me a question, I’ll answer it quickly and put the spotlight back on them.

Next time, when you’re nervous talking to someone, make the conversation about them. As you learn how to interact with people more and more, your self-confidence will keep growing.


This one is a major step for a lot of introverted/shy people. For me, it wasn’t until I took dance classes that my self-confidence started to grow. I mean, if you dance in front of people, your confidence would be forced to grow, right?

If you’re not up to taking classes where you have to get in front of a large group of people, try taking a leadership position in a small group/organization. Make sure it’s a group in which you have a lot of knowledge/expertise to contribute. If you know a lot about business, try doing a meet-up.

If you know a lot about fitness, try teaching a pop-up class. I first realized I loved public speaking when I was about to do a workshop on cigarette litter. Considering I had a background in environmental science and had volunteered with all of the Keep America Beautiful affiliates, I was very confident when I led the workshop.

The more knowledge you have about something when you lead a group/organization, the more confidence you’ll have!


This is not what it sounds. What I mean by this is to do a self-audit of what makes you feel good about your appearance.

What makes you feel great about yourself and boosts your confidence? Does a manicure make you feel like a new person? Do new shoes make you walk with more confidence? Does a swipe of your favorite lipstick make you feel like you can take on anything?

Whatever it is, do more of it. For me, I feel most confident in two ways: 1) an outfit that makes me feel powerful, so my “focus on my appearance” would be my wardrobe, and 2) that feeling after getting a haircut. Y’all know what I’m talking about!

I believe we will always be working on our self-confidence when we reach different stages of our lives. I’m still working on my self-confidence too (which is why I hate going to events alone), but my advice is based on my personal experiences and what has worked for me.

I hope these tips have helped you in some way today!

What do you do to boost your self-confidence?


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