How to Embrace the Transitional Stages of Life

Spring is one of my favorite seasons. The weather begins to warm up, the grass gets a little greener and the flowers and trees start blooming. All beautiful signs of transition and change. I’ll admit, as much as I love fall, I actually look forward to spring and daylight savings. I know. You can say it: crazy Asian lady.

Hey, I hate losing that hour of sleep too, but I think it’s a fair trade to get that extra hour of sun! I’m pretty sure most people feel the same way since everyone I know prefers hot over cold weather.

The thought of spring brought me to today’s topic: When it comes to our lives, why don’t we look forward toward transition and change? I’m talking about good changes. Why is it that we don’t get all excited and try to plan for new chapters of our lives? We can plan our vacations six months to a year in advance, but not for our life? Isn’t that something to think about?

Change is good when you know where you want to go in life, what you want to do and learn who you truly are or when you don’t know any of the above.

Think about it. What would happen if we were chose to stay in a season we didn’t like? For me, I don’t know what I’d do if the weather was hot forever. All I can say is that there better be an endless supply of air conditioning, shorts and t-shirts and iced tea or I would go cray cray. Like cur-azy cray cray, haha!

Anyway, for today’s post, I give you two ways to embrace the transitional stages of life whether change happens by choice or not:

Reflect

No matter if your life transitions are by your own doing or not, take time to reflect. Reflect on who you were before the change and who you want to be after the change. Reflect on your surroundings and pay attention to the little things. What were you doing? Who was in your life? Then reflect and dream about your future. What do you want to be doing? Who do you want in your life to be a positive influence?

When sudden changes happened to me, I took time to reflect. When I took time for myself, I realized that I wasn’t scared of change. I just did what I needed to do. Even with new seasons in my life that didn’t happen by choice, I faced it head on and figured it out. If I didn’t know how to do something, like plan and execute a city-wide parade, I just went for it and figured it out along the way. I learned that most of the time, I didn’t know where to begin, but still took action anyway. 

As I reflected on who I wanted in my future, I realized I had people in my life who weren’t great influences. Not that they’re bad people, but if I wanted to excel and succeed, I had to find and add people to my circles who were aiming for something bigger and better than just working to pay the bills.

Truthfully, I also learned that I started becoming comfortable after awhile and let me tell you, I did not like change. Why didn’t I like change? I was fearful. During my own reflection, I learned that the old me was fearless and who I became was someone who was fearful.

The lesson that came with reflecting? If I was fearless before, I could be fearless again. Afterall, like Marie Forleo says, everything is figureoutable.

Take Action

If you’re scared of a new transition, feel the fear and take action anyway. Action dissolves fear. Write down what you need to do. From there, break down your to-do’s into baby, bite-size steps such as “send an email” or “call so-and-so” to dissolve your fears even more. It may not be glamorous action steps, but you won’t be overwhelmed as much. Rather than eat the entire elephant, take smaller steps. You’ll be amazed at how far you’ll get!

I started taking action to make the necessary changes I wanted almost four years ago. Today, I’m doing even more. I’m love life and actually want more excitement that comes with change. 

I can honestly say that by watching others’ dreams comes true while I chip away at mine has helped me to love to take more action. Watching others live their dreams has really helped me to love the transitional stages of life. For example, watching Kim of Lace & Locks for the last several years have been so inspiring! From opening her shop, Morning Lavender, online to expanding to a second physical store in California these last several years fires me up!

I will say that following Kristina closely on her adventures through her blog and Instagram these last five years have truly been inspiring for me too. She shows courage to try new things. On top of that, she shows that embracing the unknown leads to amazing adventures and dreams coming true. On top of all this positivity, hearing stories from entrepreneurs like Sara Blakely, Marianna Hewitt, and Jeannie Mai and their journeys just keep me sweating those diamonds!!!

If you want to learn how to embrace the transitional stages of life, reflect and take more action. Action is like an adrenaline rush. Once you do it, you want to do more and more of it. Taking action dissolves your fear and making decisions will get easier.

I’m taking tons of action to change a lot of areas in my life this year so I’ll keep you posted on what happens!

How do you battle your resistance to change?

If you’ve taken action, how did you feel about the change(s) that occurred? Have you ever felt excited for change? Tell me all about it below in the comments! 

Happy Friday and don’t forget to change your clocks to one hour ahead this weekend!

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